Most advice is right for the person giving it

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74 points | by rohanm93 1 hour ago

19 comments

  • hk__2 1 hour ago
    > Which is why I find it pretty funny that Ozempic is arguably the biggest weight-loss breakthrough in decades - and all it does is make you…eat less. Billions in R&D, and the answer was the platitude the whole time. Ha.

    The problem was not that we didn’t know what to do ("eat less"), but to enable that solution.

    • projektfu 41 minutes ago
      I would push back and say that a lot of people didn't actually know that. They came up with elaborate reasons why eating less doesn't work, but keto works, or paleo works, or eliminating sugar works, or vegan works, or it's just physically impossible to lose weight.
      • NikolaNovak 24 minutes ago
        I am constantly arguing with all of my friends and family who believe primary way to loose weight is to exercise more.

        Exercising is great, absolutely, but eating less is the actual primary method. While acknowledging complications of metabolism and psychology and weird states body goes through when it's hungry, primary part is to reduce calory intake vs expenditure.

        So as snide and silly as it may be, in my neck of the woods, I would agree, lots of people don't believe eating less is the primary method of losing weight.

        • JohnMakin 19 minutes ago
          It’s just physics, really.

          A bag of doritos is 200+ calories. The exercise involved to burn that off is running or walking multiple miles. It’s way easier in terms of physical expenditure to just not eat the doritos, or skip the sugary soda.

      • hn_throwaway_99 22 minutes ago
        I would push back against your pushback and say nearly everyone knows that, it's just the brain is great at making excuses when things are physically difficult.
      • thomastjeffery 31 minutes ago
        They did that because the other thing didn't work. It doesn't matter that the reason it didn't work is that they can't do it: the implication is identical.

        Don't underestimate how impossible it can be to force your own body into a new behavior pattern.

    • jcalx 58 minutes ago
      Classic case of "simple != easy". Things can be simple, yet hard, and that's an underrated measure of difficulty in my experience.
      • hansvm 43 minutes ago
        That's true, but the fact that it wasn't easy created a huge industry of fake information regarding alternative explanations of weight loss from CICO. It's nice to have some more obvious evidence to convince people that no, your body can't magically move and exercise for free when you eat less, among other strange claims I've heard from people struggling to lose weight. People stuck in that rut of not being able to eat less were prone to being deceived by countless weight loss products when the real solution (also hard mind you, but at least more viable) would have been to focus on which activities and diets actually allowed them personally to maintain a calorie deficit.

        And as a bonus, now they also have one. A lot of people didn't even believe that was the solution though, and the belief change is important.

    • skinfaxi 1 hour ago
      The problem was always about enablement. We know the solution to smoking too, the problem is enablement.
      • lubujackson 1 hour ago
        The interesting solution to smoking was social pressure. No smoking in restaurants, no smoking on planes, general intolerance to smokers, insane taxes on tobacco... suddenly, smokers for 30 years started quitting at a certain breaking point.

        The real solution to weight loss (especially in the U.S.) is to change the social norms. When everyone is hitting the buffets and going to Cheesecake Factory and buying high calorie garbage at a discount, of course to population gets fat. France, for example, makes all of that much harder. Maybe Ozempic will help reduce the Walmart-wheelchair-fat population, but truly becoming fit as a country requires significantly more friction for everyone.

        • wcarron 9 minutes ago
          Ironically, nicotine suppresses appetite. Maybe the solution was chain smoking all along.
        • nemomarx 47 minutes ago
          The nice thing about ozempic is that it makes people less hungry and less able to eat large portions. Once 30% of the country is on it, expect buffets to go out of business and restaurants to need to shift to smaller portions in response. So it'll make it easier for everyone not on the drugs too.
    • the__alchemist 19 minutes ago
      I will poke at the last sentence a bit, as it's important to understanding the phrnomena you described. There was and is a lot of FUD about this. Many people knew it's true, including from first hand experience.

      Discussion about it in news, conversations would get it mixed up into stories of genetics, free will, macronutrient balance, personal identities, culture etc. Call it nuance; complexity, or bullshit. People had/have a hard time accepting "eat less to not be fat".

      This is one of the things you actually can change about your body, appearance and health outcomes! There are many things that are immutable - people would try to convince you the biggest mutable thing is also out of reach.

    • Thanemate 1 hour ago
      I'm far from being an expert on this specific subject but, I have the impression that Ozempic does a lot of things in one's body in order to reduce the appetite and result in eating less. Which is to say that, the author sounds like he's implying that the solution to this was trivial all along, by deliberately omitting the underlying mechanism that makes it work.
    • hn_throwaway_99 15 minutes ago
      The whole irony is that quote is making the exact mistake his post is about: "eat less" is great advice for people where eating less isn't that hard, but it's not helpful advice for people who struggle mightily with eating less and who live in an environment of calorie rich, nutrient poor foods. I've naturally always been skinny, I often find eating a chore. Eating less is incredibly easy for me, but eating right and exercising enough to maintain muscle is the hard part for me.

      I mean, we've been telling people "eat less" for literally decades and Americans are fatter than ever. The only thing that finally brought down societal-wide obesity stats was GLP-1s.

    • Razengan 1 hour ago
      And we laugh at AI for being simple minded

      The mind is always the biggest battle

    • 9rx 1 hour ago
      To be fair, we also knew how to enable it long before Ozempic arrived. We had hundreds of thousands of years of successfully "eating less" to look back upon for answers.

      But drugs allow one to remove themselves from society, which is far more appealing.

      • nemomarx 1 hour ago
        Basically every diet program for the last 4 years, every change to food or social habits at least in the US, failed to curb it. So in a pretty real sense we did not know how to eat less successfully, emphasis on successfully.
        • 9rx 58 minutes ago
          Yes we do. We toss out the technology and go back to substance farming or hunter/gathering. You'll have no trouble "eating less". But that requires social coordination and humans much prefer to escape society through the use of drugs. Always have, always will.
          • nemomarx 50 minutes ago
            I think the revolt you'd get from trying to move everyone back to subsistence farming (and also getting conquered by some other group who didn't do this) also means we don't know how to do that successfully. You're ignoring that last word again.
            • 9rx 42 minutes ago
              Protip: Read right up to the end of the comment before pressing reply. You missed a whole lot of context by rushing to respond midway through.
              • nemomarx 30 minutes ago
                What I'm saying is that "knowing how to do something" requires knowing how to actually implement that solution, how to get people to agree to do it. You might as well say "we know how to get to tau ceti".
          • wat10000 6 minutes ago
            Yes, mass starvation is an extremely effective weight loss technique. However, some feel there are downsides to this approach.
          • watwut 6 minutes ago
            There is an implicit requirement of "while not making survival chances significantly lower".
      • hansvm 41 minutes ago
        Are you saying that Ozempic allows you to escape society or that all the fat people are actually just druggies? Like, either way it's wild, but I'm struggling to come up with a more charitable take.
        • ragall 30 minutes ago
          Both are true.
    • mrbenjihao 1 hour ago
      Plenty of options exist that enable the solutions around weight loss. The issue is that 99% of those are difficult to either start and/or maintain consistency with. Ozempic just happened to address both of those issues in one swoop because people as a whole are incredibly intolerant to any friction in their lives.
      • mszcz 8 minutes ago
        I'm sure your comment is made in good faith and I agree with it (in meaning), but this:

        > because people as a whole are incredibly intolerant to any friction in their lives

        ...somehow makes me picture you saying it with a smug expression and instantly dislike the whole comment. Maybe it's the broad, catch-all "because people" generalisation, I don't know. But again, I agree with the comment... in meaning ;(

  • sksksk 37 minutes ago
    There are so many podcasts where "successful" people (within a narrow definition of success) give advice.

    The issue there, is that for every "successful" person, there are thousads who did the exact same things and didn't make it. Arguably a better thing would be to interview the ones who failed, and learn lessons from them.

    Secondly, the person themselves can be selective in what they share, they may talk about the risks they took to get where they are, but not about the backstop of a wealthy family to fall back on if it all goes wrong (for example).

    • Hasz 6 minutes ago
      imo, the easier and more likely-to-be-successful podcast idea is to press successful people on times they failed. Very few are going to be "first at bat, hit a homerun"; those people are not as interesting anyways to interview.

      You solve the credibility problem they ended up successful) while still distilling down the more valuable failures.

    • wat10000 2 minutes ago
      Case studies are of very limited utility regardless, especially when studied by the subject themselves.

      The most informative are rigorous population studies. Unfortunately, those tend to reach depressing and not necessarily useful conclusions like "the most likely way to achieve wealth is to have successful parents."

  • elohimus 46 minutes ago
    I really like this piece - but it points to a wider truth. All advice is contextual.

    - It's contextual to the advice giver: Is it specific to them? Do they have an ulterior motive or are beholden to someone with an ulterior motive, e.g. getting you to support their agenda or getting you to buy or vote.

    - It's contextual to you: Does that fit the way you operate? Does it play to your strengths?

    - And it's contextual to your ...well... context: Are you in a country where this advice applies? Do you have the financial means to execute on it, etc...

    Bottom line - there are very few pieces of truly universal good advice.

    • Imustaskforhelp 15 minutes ago
      Although I agree with your comment but your comment is naturally making me wonder what are the very few pieces of truly universal good advice that you are mentioning.

      What do you think such advice could be/is and the definition of finding such advice and to differentiating it from other advice which is still contextual?

  • clickety_clack 1 hour ago
    If I have to choose between hearing advice (which I can ignore), or not getting any advice at all, I’d much rather get the advice. I’ve ignored a lot of advice in my time, but every once in a while a diamond sneaks through, and often I get an idea or two for a different way of looking at things.
    • AnthonyR 1 hour ago
      While mostly true, there is definitely such thing as advice fatigue and generally easy for our brains to conflate advice and criticism which can be detrimental in large doses from my experience. Not to say that it's bad to receive advice/criticism but it has to be ideally in the right dose and with the right intention.
  • glitchc 38 minutes ago
    Sadly no one wants the truth, so folks like Jobs and Cuban have to layer it with bromides. Truth is they're both giving the exact same advice, it's just that the honest version is deeply unpopular, because it implies that there is no secret sauce.

    The advice is: Work very hard on something, and you too might get lucky.

    Jobs' version is just slightly modified: Work very hard on something (you care about), and you too might get lucky.

  • solatic 37 minutes ago
    You don't ask for advice to have someone else make your decisions for you, rather in the hope that you learn about options you didn't otherwise realize were open to you. You ask for advice to "get out of your head".

    It may not be right for you, but you'll have made a better decision for having considered it.

  • romesmoke 17 minutes ago
    Most advice given by people unaffected by whatever comes out of whatever you do with the advice given is garbage (Nassim Taleb, Skin in the Game).
  • randusername 1 hour ago
    We should distinguish between 1:many advice and 1:1 advice.

    An interviewer is really asking "how do you recommend people replicate your success?" which grounds the response in the hard lessons that person learned on their own journey.

    Personalized advice can be equally useless, but if that person really understands you and your situation you might be surprised how specific and valuable good objective feedback can be.

    • figassis 1 hour ago
      "good objective feedback" - right, I think advice in general is bad because it tries to bite size a complex system, that is society/humanity. Feedback is giving someone information they can act on, along with the rest of context they have of their situation. No need for you to know them deeply, just the interaction.

      There are things that can work, and things that likely won't work, and most people know these. Then there is a space of things that usually work and things that may not work, and you can't fit these into a person without knowing a lot of variables about them and the environment around them, like what and who they know, their personality, their competence (not just their resume), and many, many other variables. So advice defaults to guessing most of these variables to find some direction.

      And I think it boosts advisors' ego, makes advisees feel temporarily better, even motivated, but YMMV by a lot.

      This is why the good advisors also change the variables in your favor, like introduce you to their network, coach, etc. And often this costs you something. Like money, equity, whatever.

    • Razengan 1 hour ago
      In Buddhism/Taoism, it's said that teachings are like someone pointing at the moon: If you just look at the fingers, you'll not see the moon.

      Or "playing the fiddle for a cow" (though we know some animals can appreciate music in some way)

      The point being that advice depends on the listener's capacity to understand the intent of the advisor.

      • selimthegrim 31 minutes ago
        I guess that's where the saying "playing the flute in front of the water buffalo" comes from
  • 1970-01-01 31 minutes ago
    The X-factor of LLM AI advice is how it consists of both artificial and intelligent responses; It cannot cloud judgement by having feelings and will still think very carefully about your problem.
  • yipinwong 56 minutes ago
    (My analogy for this article only): Ideas gleaned from the article.

    AIs do not have all the contexts about you thus provide you guidance not fit for you. Advisors are the same, they don't know everything about you thus not all advices fit for you.

    You know about yourself the best (given you "reflect") and make trade-offs between what you know, and what you consider benficial to you.

    As I always bring up about making tradeoffs in HN in my comments, the article is solid.

  • podgorniy 3 minutes ago
    There is something related to meritocracy and sharing back in all these ideas. But i can't pinpoint extractly what is it....
  • radial_symmetry 43 minutes ago
    Scott Alexander has a great post on this: https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/03/24/should-you-reverse-any...
  • Aurornis 1 hour ago
    Another variation of this: Advice is what the person giving it needs to hear for themself.

    This is oddly evident in beginner influencers trying to become gurus on social media. They try to write life advice from a position of superiority, but when you look closely they’re given themselves a little pep talk about how they want to be or what they need to hear. It doesn’t mean the advice is wrong, but you can see through the illusion that you’re hearing sage advice from someone who figured it all out long ago.

  • readthenotes1 27 minutes ago
    No support for the assertion in the title.
  • thomastjeffery 28 minutes ago
    In other words: communication requires empathy.
  • dec0dedab0de 33 minutes ago
    Is it just me, or is this just an ad with a headline that is trying to make common sense sound profound?
  • win311fwg 1 hour ago
    > Mark Cuban says the opposite

    In what way are they opposing thoughts? Steve Jobs said keep putting in the effort until you find the thing that you love. Mark Cuban also said keep putting in the effort until you find the thing that you love. The exact word choice may have differed, but they both expressed the exact same thing.

    • d-us-vb 55 minutes ago
      The mode is completely different. You have to twist Cuban’s words to make him say the same thing as Jobs. Because he didn’t say “find the thing you love” he said spend enough effort on what you’re doing until it becomes the thing you love. Jobs is about an actual search, which takes effort, for sure. Cuban is about transformation in place.
      • 9rx 47 minutes ago
        Not at all. Jobs is not implying that you should, like, jump from minimum wage job to minimum wage job until you find one you like. He is suggesting that if you put in effort, like learning deeply about something, that will close the gaps that are necessarily closed to find true love. Which is the same thing Cuban is saying.

        Perhaps you can interpret Jobs' statement that way in a vacuum, but fortunately we don't need to evaluate what Jobs' said in a vacuum. He also said a lot of other things that allow us to build up context around his intent. He spoke a lot about how he found his love.

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