How Singapore's government-run dating service works

(singapore-samizdat.com)

55 points | by danielfoster 3 hours ago

11 comments

  • water-data-dude 1 hour ago
    You know, there's probably fewer perverse incentives with a government run dating service. Obviously I can imagine ways it could suck, but when I compare them to how commercial dating services are run it's hard to see how they could do a _worse_ job.
    • sergiotapia 33 minutes ago
      Aren't commercial dating sites as a whole summarized as:

      Keep supply of women high because men will pay anything for a chance?

      I am very curious how this will be changed in this government platform. Maybe it won't LOL

      • some_furry 21 minutes ago
        It's also a market for lemons: Every match that leads to a long-term, exclusive relationship is two customers gone for good.
  • dominicq 6 minutes ago
    > In short, stable matches mean nothing when nobody is committed and the best options might exist outside of the matchmaking pool

    This is wrong. Stable matches still mean something, and in fact probably mean quite a lot.

    You are given a much better match than a random pairing. If you still aren't interested, you can decline. If you go on a date and it doesn't work out, you can decline.

    Nothing forces you to use this process, it is just an offer of a significantly better than random matching to what you might prefer.

    It doesn't even need to account for preferences not covered by the questionnaire.

  • jjmarr 1 hour ago
    Gale-Shapley, used in this service, has the property that one side ("proposing" side) is guaranteed their most advantageous stable match while the other side is guaranteed their worst possible stable match.

    I've never heard this discussed or mentioned as a drawback because it's Nobel Prize winning and "stable" is a shorthand for "fair". Even though there's many unique stable matches that each offer participants different utilities even if individual participants don't have incentives to change their pairing.

    In practice, the more powerful party seems to be the proposing side, e.g. hospitals are the "proposing side" when using Gale-Shapeley to match w/ med school students and get their ideal students.

    I wonder if anyone who works on dating apps knows if men or women are the preferred side? And is there any research on stable matching that ensures equity (or ideally arbitrary distribution of utility) between the two groups in their stable matches?

    • Scaevolus 10 minutes ago
      Given how women initiate most divorces, it's probably best to set it up so they are the proposing side.

      But this isn't raw Gale-Shapley-- the participants aren't ranking all hundreds/thousands of others. In particular, the preference matrix is based on identical mutual compatibility scores, so there's a unique stable solution (not multiple stable ones!), and there's no "side" that benefits, since the solution is identical no matter who does the "proposing".

    • jmalicki 26 minutes ago
      Are there keywords to search for to read more? This is the first time I've heard about this! This is super interesting, what are a few well known other stable matches people deeper into this talk about?
  • tommica 21 minutes ago
    A very interesting solution to the problem. Surely this data will not be repurposed, right?

    But if it helps likeminded people to find each other, then it absolutely has some value.

  • podocarp 49 minutes ago
    Entirely dismissing how important looks, vibes, personality are in relationships. Not even dating -- if someone smells, you're not going to be incentives to make friends with them. This seems to me to just be trodding the same pseudoscientific route as MBTI personality tests, trying to condense a person into a list of multiple choice questions. That will never work. No algorithm can do it. Social interaction is not a solved game.
    • dominicq 4 minutes ago
      The point isn't to be a complete solution to social interaction, the point is to provide a significantly better than random sampling and pairing.

      You can then still apply your usual filters afterwards, such as smell, looks, vibes.

    • eternauta3k 19 minutes ago
      It's a shame that they deduce your ranking just from the questions. I think the algorithm would be perfect if paired with a manual ranking by the user.
    • vachina 17 minutes ago
      There are obvious deal breakers, and then as you grow older you develop “taste”.

      These are well defined criteria which can be queried upon.

      However the ranking only works if both sides are honest.

  • jharohit 1 hour ago
    person previously dating in singapore - this is awesome! wish i had
  • thisrod 1 hour ago
    There is an amusing irony in this approach to marriage promotion: who isn't already married in Singapore? I've been told that the city's 30 year old gay and lesbian crowd is treated to a lot of fancy dates at public expense.
    • tantalor 1 hour ago
      The govt pays for the date??
    • ValentineC 1 hour ago
      > There is an amusing irony in this approach to marriage promotion: who isn't already married in Singapore?

      I don't understand your question.

    • maplant 1 hour ago
      honestly that seems like a great way to spend public funds
  • tonyhart7 9 minutes ago
    I think this is good, yes there can be improve but the idea is good

    especially for country like korea and japan ???? Yeah bro they need it

  • ChrisArchitect 2 hours ago
    Related:

    Singapore govt dating app uses Gale-Shapley stable marriage algorithm

    https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=49906432

  • MiroslavPokorny 53 minutes ago
    Welcome to Korea 2.0
  • sublinear 2 hours ago
    Interesting that when I ctrl-f the linked article and the previous discussion (463 comments), not once is the word "trust" found.

    That's the actual problem, though (a lack of it)! Above all else, you'll probably overlook a lot and still commit long-term to someone you can trust.

    • killingtime74 1 hour ago
      Trust for the first date or long term? For the first date you already must supply your government id